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Open Adoption Round Table No. 3
iled Under (Little Lassie, Open Adoption) by Lassie on 16-07-2009

Thanks to Heather at Production Not Reproduction who is spear-heading awareness and partnership by hosting our Adoption Round Table. Also, thanks to Lori who gave the prompt this week. Lori is a member of an adoption triad who continues to interest me with her dynamic view of adoption.

Lori’s topic: Share your wish list for your open adoption

Here we go.

1. I wish I were invisible, so I could see my daughter’s birth parent’s often and learn things about my daughter and where she comes from.

2. I wish I could parent my daughter’s brothers.

3. I wish if my husband were to say, “that woman gave birth to my daughter” he would be pointing at me.

4. I wish the world would go away and stop judging my open adoption. FlyGuy and I are the captains of Little Lassie’s ship (for now) and we will always keep her in safe waters.

5. I wish LL’s birth parents could see how often LL has a bright, beaming smile.

6. I wish LL’s birth parents knew how often I think of them with gratitude and respect.

7. I wish my daughter could enjoy moments basking in her birth parents’ love and then come back to us knowing she belongs with us and everything is right with the world.

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4 Comments posted on "Open Adoption Round Table No. 3"
christina(apronstrings) on July 16th, 2009 at 11:02 am #

Adoption is so awesome-and especially open adoptions. But, yeah, there would be a bit of sadness.
I am so glad that your adoption is open. I have to hold my tongue when people bad mouth open adoptions.


Lavender Luz on July 16th, 2009 at 11:28 am #

Numbers 5,6, and 7 really get me, too, for my son.

Thank you for your kind words, too. :-)


Flicka on July 16th, 2009 at 8:31 pm #

A big yes to #7. We’re having so much trouble with Sam’s bio mom right now that I sometimes wonder if she’ll even be around to form a connection with him. It makes me so sad. I know you know that feeling.

And yes to #4 as well. We are Sam’s parents for a reason. WE know what is best for him. We would never put him in a situation that would be harmful to him, physically OR emotionally!

xo
Flicka

(PS~Moving my blog and going under the radar. Want to come?)


Jill Niemi on July 21st, 2009 at 10:57 am #

I hope LL will have a chance to read your thoughts on open adoption some day. It truely shows the depth of your love for her! I do think that if you are able to envision a future some of it will fall into place but maybe just not how you expect it. Your vision for the future is beautiful!


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